Tiffany Stevens

For many people, forgiveness feels like the hardest ask in healing. It can sound unfair, premature, or even dangerous, especially when the pain runs deep. You may hear the word and immediately think, “I’m not ready,” or “They don’t deserve that.” And you’re not wrong for feeling that way. But what if forgiveness isn’t about excusing what happened or reconciling with someone who hurt you? What if forgiveness is actually the key that unlocks your freedom to a path to peace?

But here’s what many don’t realize: closure after a breakup is often a myth. It’s the illusion that someone else holds the key to your healing when, in reality, that power has always belonged to you. True closure comes from making peace with what happened without needing outside validation or explanation. Yes, it’s beautiful when we receive understanding or apologies, but hinging your healing on that keeps your well-being tied to someone else’s choices and capacity (or lack thereof).

Now here’s where a lot of people get stuck: they want the glow-up, the breakthrough, the transformation… but they’re still clinging to the same old patterns, beliefs, and comfort zones. Unfortunately, that’s not how to transform your life.